Tuesday, February 26, 2013

sheltered.

Most of you know that I've spent many years obsessing over critters.  My childhood was filled with animals and I've never really let go of that little girl.  Even now in NYC, I look for subway rats with Lu and am happy to see the occasional skunk or woodchuck that dares to venture out of Fort Tryon Park.

While Andrew and I were in Canada, I volunteered at the local animal shelter, mostly with their foster program, and found it to be an overwhelmingly meaningful experience.  If there is one piece of advice I can give newlyweds, whether they are thinking of having babies or not, it is to foster a litter of kittens or puppies.   I'm not kidding.   Andrew and I learned how each other handles stress, how to communicate quickly and efficiently (and nicely!) and how to jump onto the same page for the good of the whole. We were scared together and sad together and joyous together and there were these tiny little lives depending on us.  Andrew was also able to get used to all things foul smelling (compared to kitten diarrhea, baby poo is nothin').  I really think the experience was eye opening in all good ways.

anyway...

That was a very long lead in to the real point of this post - Berry.


What a pretty pup, am I right?  If you've seen my facebook page, you know that I'm kind of on a mission to get Berry adopted.  He has been living at shelters almost his entire life (he's a little over 4 years old) and it's time for him to sleep in a home.  He is good with dogs, mild mannered, walks well on the leash ... WHY IS HE STILL HERE!?!  The only reason he is not at my house right now is that he's not a huge fan of cats (this may be a product of stress from the shelter environment) and so I think he'd scare Tank just a little ;)  I think he would be a great dog for an actor/artist, a couple or a family with older kids.   It's hard to explain just how stressful the shelter environment is on dogs and cats (even happy, homey shelters), but the fact that Berry has remained a mush through years of shelter to shelter life is a HUGE testament to his character and I think he will truly bloom when he has a family to call his :)

Some more pictures from my day at the shelter ...



 - shelter staff (and Flurry!) participate in weekly behavior meetings - cats - dogs - laundry, oh my! -

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Love! Love until the night collapses!




Look at this picture.  Oh my.  Believe it or not, this was wayyyyyy before Andrew and I started dating and wayyyyy before we really knew each other.  This picture was taken about a month after we'd first met, doing an educational theatre tour in New Jersey (romantic, no?).  I was seriously dating someone and he was casually dating many, but neither of us had plans for Valentine's Day that February night of '06, so we went out to a fancy Italian dinner with two of the other girls in the cast.  I laugh every time I see this picture because I really had no idea what I was foreshadowing here.  I was  just posing for a picture.  If you know me, you know I'm pretty fast and loose with the kissing, so a smooch on the cheek was my 'go-to' pose for VDay (if you look closely, I'm not even touching his cheek, THAT'S how little I knew him!)

Anyway,  I like to pretend that my heart knew we would end up together even though my brain didn't.  Seven years after this "kiss" I'd like to report that my brain and heart are in agreement.  

Due to many bad/sad/yucky relationships (and maybe because it's just a little bit the way I am) I've had to re-learn the whole love thing a few times (who hasn't).  What is the saying? One step forward -two steps back?  But I finally feel like, with Andrew, I'm getting the hang of it.  Becoming better at it.  Learning more and more that Love is enough (when "love" means: hard work, communication,  compassion, trust, compromise and, sometimes, space/time).

I am constantly battling toward these virtues, while Andrew seems to be standing at the finish line most times - patiently waiting for me to catch up.   What a good man/lover/Lua's daddy I have :)   

Speaking of the devil,  he just walked through the door after having been gone since before 9 this morning, so - I'm outta here!

Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! 

p.s.  the title of this post is a beautiful Pablo Neruda quote - and here's another, just because I love him so...

 "I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees."

...xoxo!








Saturday, February 9, 2013

blizzard.


Happy Weekend, everyone!

We're spending lots of time snuggling in (and jumping on) the bed this weekend.